Matthew Hussey is a ‘New York Times’ Bestselling Author, a columnist for ‘Cosmopolitan’ magazine, and the formal contributor to’ The Today Show’ and today Hussey voiced his three very strong objections with Nancy Jo Sales article in ‘Vanity Fair’ on the dating app Tinder saying, “I think both men and women have cause to be upset by this article.”
Problem #1: It’s Wrong About Men
About the bragging stories from some men… “The truth is, and I hate to say it, but they sound like twenty-somethings who are trying a little too hard to convince us of how much they are getting laid. Many of the guys I know who are actually good with women wouldn’t be caught dead quoting their numbers in this embarrassing way. In case anyone needed reminding, men are not all the same, and they don’t all just want casual hook ups all the time.”
Problem #2: It absolves everyone of responsibility for their love lives
“The second problem I had was on behalf of women. For a guy to have sex, a woman needs to say yes. If women don’t like the behavior they are getting from guys, they don’t have to sleep with them. It’s as simple as that!”
Problem #3: Human nature isn’t suddenly changed by an app
“It’s simply not true that we now live in a world where it’s all meaningless and people don’t want relationships. Yes people still have issues with monogamy, they always will. But they still want relationships. Free love and ambivalence over the difficulties of traditional couple-hood did not begin with Tinder. Let’s not fall into the trap of believing that people are evolving just as quickly as our technology. Human evolution takes place over millions of years. Our core desires haven’t changed, and Tinder hasn’t ushered in Huxley’s Brave New World overnight. Relax!”
He ends on a high note… “there’s great news for you: it’s easier to stand out these days than ever. If you are the 1 in 10 people in a bar, a café, a restaurant, who still knows how to start a conversation and put your best foot forward…You. Will. Win. Because as always, the way to stand out is not to play the same game everyone else is playing, and right now the most valuable commodities in the dating marketplace are authenticity and a backbone.”
BRAVO Matthew Hussey, you nail it every time!
